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Marriage, an Experience of Oneness
Q: Do you believe marriage is necessary?
A: In most cases, marriage is necessary, but a marriage achieving conjugality.
Q: What you mean by conjugality? What you mean by marriage, indeed?
A: Matrimony is a space where union and oneness should be realized. It is the experience of one in two. It is understanding oneness in plurality. It is to see oneself in the other and the other in oneself - without seeing oneself in oneself. It is the symbol of the union between the female and male parts of man and to establish a relation and connection between tow poles of one's being. The outer matrimony should be the representation of the inner marriage.
Q: What is inner marriage?
A: You have to marry your soul, to deliver your being from duality and achieve oneness. As long as you have not achieved union and oneness within yourself you shall not be able to experience it outside yourself...
Q: You mean we have first to marry inside ourselves and become one with our soul and then have a conventional marriage?
A: Of course such a marriage would be an excellent one. But the point is that one's conventional marriage develops in harmony with ones inner union and alliance. If you desire to improve and modify your outside alliance and relation, you have to modify your alliance and relation with your real self.
Q: What if that would not the case?
A: It will end in a troubled, disharmonious and tormenting marriage.
Q: Who should marry who within me?
A: The Spirit of God with "I". The Divine Spirit with you. "I" is living inside you. Feeling, thought, memories, desires and [so many other things] are all parts of your being; they should be brought out of diffusion and go in one direction and become coherent. Next, your soul has to melt in and be fascinated by the Divine Spirit. Then, you shall be one within yourself and shall find your divinity again. When you would be one inside yourself, you could, then, be able to become one with another person. In fact, marriage is this very experience of becoming one.
Q: What is the necessity of experiencing "oneness"?
A: As long as you have not experienced oneness on Earth, it is unlikely to experience it in Heaven. He is One, and as long as you have not become one and comprehend [your inner] oneness, it is quite improbable you could comprehend His oneness.
Q: If I understand it rightly, we would not have a successful outer marriage unless we could realize that inner marriage. Is it right?
A: To practice mountain climbing is not necessarily to reach the mountain top. Any spot on a mountain you reach, you have climbed it up. However, if you wish to attain the great victory and to have the highest experience of mountain climbing you have to reach its peak.
It is possible to have a rather successful outer marriage without having achieved one's inner marriage first; yet it will not be a complete and full success and marriage. Such a marriage may be a conquest but not a victory. It is as though one has reached a spot on a mountainside but he is still far from its peak.
Q: What should we do then?
A: Whether you are married or not, do not forget about a spiritual and inner marriage and try to bring it about someday. Make your spirit so beautiful and charming to attract the attention of the Spirit of God. Try to prepare yourself and to earn the dignity to become His fiance; and be ready, all your lifetime, for the wedding moment with the flow of truth and keep always looking forward to it.
Surrender your soul and your being to the Lord and offer them to Gods Spirit. Let your soul be fascinated with the Divine Spirit and the flow of truth and melt and vanish into them. Then [you shall witness] a heavenly birth which will be the fruit of your marriage. That is how it will be possible to enter the Divine Kingdom.
Q: What you mean by a heavenly birth?
A: When your [sacred] union with the flow of truth - the Divine Spirit - is achieved and you become one with it, a third being will be born into your being which will be the result of that divine marriage.
Q: Does this refer to the word of Jesus who said, "You shall not enter the Divine Kingdom unless you are born anew?"
A: It is better to ask the Christ himself what he meant by this; for he is alive and is teaching...
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